Setting Boundaries as a Woman in Business

If you’re not a woman, you might not fully understand this: women starting their businesses often face uncomfortable and risky situations during meetings with male clients.

Let me explain...

Last year, I had a meeting with a male client at a hotel. Everything seemed fine until the client started asking personal and inappropriate questions. I felt extremely uncomfortable and had to end the meeting because the situation didn’t feel right.

Now, you might be asking, "So, Esuvat, should women avoid meeting male clients?"

No, that’s not what I’m saying. Women starting their businesses must take precautions, stay professional, and maintain their self-respect in every interaction.

Here’s how I handle uncomfortable situations:

If a client starts asking inappropriate or personal questions, I politely say:

"Excuse me, Mr. X. I’m sorry, but I’m not comfortable with this topic. Can we please go back to what we came here to discuss?"

Then, I smile and redirect the conversation to the business topic.

• If the client persists: Change the subject again and avoid answering.

• If they continue being inappropriate: Politely end the meeting by saying you have another commitment, then excuse yourself and leave.

What to do if you feel unsafe:

• Share your live location with a trusted friend or family member.

• Send them the client’s contact details and, if possible, a photo.

• Research the client’s business name or company beforehand.

• Text a friend regularly, like every 15 minutes, to stay in touch.

• Excuse yourself: Say someone is waiting for you or that you have another meeting and leave.

These steps have helped me feel more secure in risky situations or when dealing with clients who seem shady or unprofessional.

Red Flags to Watch For

It’s not wrong for a client to try to get to know you, but some questions cross the line. Here are examples of inappropriate questions or comments I’ve encountered:

• "Do you have a boyfriend?"

• "Are you married? Do you want to get married?"

• "Why does a beautiful woman like you walk? You should have a car."

• "Can we meet at my house next time?"

• "You’re very beautiful" or comments about your body.

• "Can we meet at night at a bar or hotel?"

These types of questions are not friendly; they’re red flags. Always keep your guard up, maintain professionalism, and stay focused on the purpose of your meeting.

Don’t Compromise Your Standards

I understand the temptation to play along, especially if you need the job or the money. But trust me, lowering your standards is never worth it. Your reputation is critical in your industry, and behaving unprofessionally will harm your career in the long run.

Additional Tips for Women Entrepreneurs:

• Choose neutral meeting locations: Always suggest public places like a café, coworking space, or office.

• Set boundaries upfront: Clearly communicate what the meeting will focus on.

• Bring a colleague or friend: If it’s a high-stakes meeting, having someone else present can help.

• Trust your instincts: If something feels off, don’t ignore it.

• Document everything: Keep notes of the meeting and any odd behavior.

Starting and running a business isn’t easy, but staying safe and professional should always be a priority. Protect yourself, build your reputation with integrity, and never compromise your values.

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